This is the official eighth year that I get to partake in the Mother's Day festivities as an active participant. I had two years with my friend covered with fur, and then there was the one year I was almost a mother....but those don't really count do they?
Now that it is official, I like to spend the day barking orders at my family, making them pick up after me, feed me, dress me, bathe me, HELP me and proclaiming, "Because I said so!" Okay, so I don't do that....but wouldn't that be fun? This year my son is old enough to ask why there is not a kid's day, and I respond,"I remember thinking the same thing pumpkin when I was your age....and the answer is because EVERY DAY IS KIDS DAY!"
Two years ago I actually came down with some sort of bug, that included....well let's just say I was sick. And then I got to try and eat a very VERY burnt breakfast in bed. Spent most of the week (including the entire Mother's Day) in bed (in tears) sick as a dog (which made one dog super happy to spend the week with me).
So last year I decided that I would spend the entire weekend (and a 1/2 day on Friday) doing something I loved-gardening. And, I went balls to the wall, adding flowers, plants, seeding, new bark, moving plants, planting vines uh I went a bit overboard. I ended up wrenching my back so bad I felt sick to my stomach, again spending most of the week in bed.
This year I have spent the last two days in a germ free gardening free bubble.......for fear that I might not fully enjoy this Mother's Day. I will speak or touch no one. I am going to be healthy if it kills me. I am spending today doing things I love to do or with people I love:
- Going to breakfast (love breakfast)
- Spend day with family (love family)
- Shopping for new stove (love shopping)
- Shopping for slippers (love shopping....did I mention that?)
- Get my car washed (er...love clean stuff)
- Dinner with extended family (we uh, already addressed this, love family)
- Paint (we have covered this before oh I do love to paint).
I started to think how many people can actually say that they are doing what they love? On a day-to-day basis, what do you do spend your day doing? I mean you got the career you wanted but are you DOING what you love to do? Are you working towards getting to that point at least? If you went back to school are you studying what you want to study? If you started your own company are you doing what you love to do? Or are you spending all your time chasing down problems?
What are you spending your time doing?
Have you ever looked around and assessed what you spend your day doing? If I am going to spend hours away from my family and kids I have decided I better be doing something I love. Selfish - to some, to me it's the only way to live. I have scratched, clawed and cried my way to where I am today. I do NOT want to go back to doing things that I don't enjoy doing.
This is not to say I do not do one of the following on a weekly basis: clean the toilet, vacuum, wash windows, chase down a lost order, order supplies, empty the garbage, ship a package, write an email, negotiate a contract, clean out the fridge, upgrade the computer, add ink to the printer, re-do a corrupt file...the list goes on and on. However, this is life and these jobs are few and far between - I used to spend my days doing ONLY these things, day in and day out. I used to do it all....
It has been a long road, I took baby steps, I made changes, I fought some of them, yet I can honestly say MOST days I am doing what I love....um, I need to stop writing and start painting, before someone asks me to do something else....
So - I ask you dear reader, are you honestly doing what you love? (that was uh, not an open-ended question you can ACTUALLY respond you know....go ahead respond I know who you are! Please...don't make me beg!)